Have you ever felt like there is not enough time in the day?
As a mother, wife, employee, and business owner, I sometimes feel like it’s impossible to juggle everything I want to do. I want to stay at home with my baby girl full time. I want to work full time, too. I want to grow my private practice. I want to get organic produce from the farmers markets and make my family delicious, nutritional meals. I want to keep my house neat and tidy and maintain the gardens outside.
Obviously, these can’t all happen at once. I can’t be with my girl 24/7 and work 2 jobs that I love (and lets just forget about the fancy meals, tidy house, and beautiful gardens).
I’ve been trying to follow some new self-imposed rules: don’t multitask. Focus completely on the task in front of you. Be present.
This is what it looks like for me: When I’m playing with my daughter, I’m playing with my daughter. I’m focused completely on her. Of course, there are times when I need to plan meals, do laundry, or other householdy stuff when she’s in my care, so I try to include her as much as possible so that it’s still quality time. She loves to help my put the laundry into the washing machine. She’s also in charge of flipping the light switches on and off each time we enter or exit a room. I do my best not to do any work (emailing, blogging, songwriting) when it’s mama/Mary time. There are some exceptions, like when we listen to new music to help me expand my repertoire, or practice new songs while she plays along with the drums or egg shakers.
When I need to work on my private practice, my daughter is either at daycare, napping, or with my husband. I try to focus on one task at a time, and make lists of things I need to accomplish. When Mary wakes up or it’s time to do something else, I keep the list there and wait to do any of that until the next designated “Joyful Melodies” time.
I may not accomplish as much as I want each day, but at least I know that I’m appreciating every moment. By focusing completely on one thing at a time, my mind remains clear and focused, rather than cluttered.
Now, if only I can manifest this into my physical surroundings and keep my house as tidy as my mind.
And, right on cue, I hear that sweet baby talking to her stuffed Elmo in her crib. Nap time is over, and so is my blogging time. Enjoy your week!